If you’ve ever dealt with allergies, you know how brutal they can be. An allergy, or intolerance, is defined as: hypersensitivity reaction to a particular allergen; symptoms can vary greatly in intensity.
I swear, that perfectly describes my last relationship!!! So then I started thinking. When I eat milk- all bad. When I take penicillin- all bad. When I deal with him, it’s ALL BAD! Maybe I’m allergic to HIM!!! Is this possible?
Let’s compare this person to my dietary and environmental allergies. All create uncomfortable, if not harmful, situations for me. Lactose completely jacks up my digestive system, and he completely jacks up my emotional system. Don’t get me wrong, he wouldn’t make me itch or break out in hives, but he would drive me NUTS.
After accepting and acknowledging that I’m thoroughly allergic to my ex, I must confess I did wish for 5 seconds that I could have taken a pill to counteract the horrific effect he had on my psyche because he is sooooooo cute. Then again, do I really want something that will subdue the symptoms while he continues to act a fool? For what? Is 15 minutes of his attention really worth 15 hours, or days, or YEARS of my misery??? Uh, yea, #EPICFAIL. I then started comparing my other relationships and friendships to stuff I’m allergic to and the list grew exponentially. My life was congested with people I’m allergic to. No wonder I was feeling so down. “Happy” to me was just one of Snow White’s dwarves!!!
Well, what’s the remedy for a “people allergy”? With food allergies we eliminate the offender from our life completely. I have a friend who won’t even look at Red Lobster in fear it will aggravate his shellfish allergy. I decided to take this same approach in dealing with people I’m allergic to. Total elimination. Here are some steps I used: